Self-Abandonment VS Self-Love

When you are connected to yourself, you are naturally more connected to beauty.

When you see positive and yourself, you’re naturally see positive in others.

When you see value and contribution in yourself, you see the value and what other people contribute to your life easier too.

Women have been trained NOT to say no.

It’s in our collective psyche – that being loving means BEING AGREEABLE.

What it really is? Self-abandonment.

When we try to please others and don't tap into what we really want life feels messy. It starts to feel like we're clutching, craving and rushing.

Like nothing will satisfy you.

Sometimes it's hard to link the two together..that the unquenching thirst you have is because you need to say no. This is especially tricky because there are parts of us that DO want to say yes for many reasons.

BUT our adaptive parts (the ones who learned behaviours to try to be loved)
AND our confident adult (the self who knows their loveable regardless)
are two very different places to choose to act from.

They're very different qualities of love.

Maybe you've felt the difference in others? When they're being agreeable or trying to please OR when they're rooted in their fuck yes?

Can you take a breath and imagine one?

Then the other?

They feel quite different don't they?

This became such an exciting topic for me to study and it took me on quite a deep journey myself.

As a sensitive woman it because clear that being agreeable was not only social conditioning to be a 'good woman' but also a protective strategy.

Being attuned to people's emotional bodies means most sensitive women avoid rejecting others BECAUSE they feel the other's hurt IN THEIR OWN BODY.

Does that make sense?

You can literally feel the discomfort running under your skin. It's not pleasant AND depending on how much the other can regulate -- it can shoot you straight into over-stimulation and overwhelm.

So the adaptive strategy of 'going along with it' actually helps sensitive women stay regulated on one level.

On the other level - it's an uncomfortable sort of comfort.

Over time I learned to develop the skills to dip my toe in the authenticity pond a little more. My relationships shifted, my self-image shifted and the way I gave and received love DRASTICALLY shifted.

It all starts with self-love.

A new definition of it.

I created a resource for other women who want to REDEFINE self-love.

🌹 It's not about boundaries, but tearing down your protective walls.

🌹 Not about recharging alone, but being seen in your vulnerable moments.

🌹 And not about discipline, but embracing your feminine energy.

However...we need courage and trusted people to practice this with.

Baby, don’t give your heart to anyone (I’ve tried).

Come and sample self-love in a different way.

Join this ♡ FREE course designed specifically for sensitive women who LOVE love.

January 14th-16th, 2025 | 6pm AEST

emilypetridis.com/self-love-series

🌷 Emily Petridis

(your local highly sensitive coach)

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