We just started talking about relationships in the school and I wanted to share a framework from the first workshop that anyone can use.

It's called the Essene mirrors. Have you heard of them?

When you have a sensitive nervous system often you hold pain from past relationships which effect how easily you can give and receive love now.

It can be easier to blame other people for being less empathetic (often they actually are) or hide the parts of you that are pissed off until you get over it or shove it away.

You can use this framework to see what might be in your shadow and make changes so that if they never change, you still feel okay.

To develop this skill:

Take some time with a trigger or moment in relationship that makes you shut down or feel defensive. Then note what you might be being shown from the options below.

When you find the truth it’s liberating.

When you’re denying and working from protection its aggravating.

1. Attract/see what you are. What you see outside of yourself is how you are in this moment.

2. Attract/see what you judge. We judge what has the potential to hurt us (unconscious) or what we don’t understand.

3. Something lost, given or had stolen or taken. This often shows up as jealousy.

4. Forgotten love. Parts of you that you used to easily express want to come back online now as an adult.

5. Dark night of the soul.Everything is moving you into grief, feeling the darkness and shedding what can’t come into the next chapter.

6. Mirror of your mother and father aspects showing up that you embody but reject. Ancestral or familial karma.

7. Your self-concept gets mirrored. How you perceive yourself (that internal voice / self-esteem) is how you are treated by others.

Which one of these makes sense for when someone last annoyed you?

If you still see your sensitivity as a burden and it shuts you down or causes you to isolate..you probably don’t fully understand its healing power and your role as a sensitive woman in this society.

Join us for practice in the school around making space for people's differences and conflict resolution for sensitive women.

Stop watching reels on IG - getting confused and following trends. Instead, start totrust your body to guide you into better feeling relationships.

Em xx