My 6-Month No Man Detox

Celebrate with me my love,

I’m over four months into a masculine cleanse—no dating, no flirting, none of the juicy things with men.  This has been ULTRA challenging because…I love men — Their smell, their hugs and of course—good cuddles.

I usually fall out of relationships straight into another. OR straight into delicious dating. Oops.

The reason I started this? 👇🏼

I saw a distinct pattern: turning to men for emotional witnessing and direction that I wasn’t giving myself.

I thought I wanted devotion from a man.

Turns out, I needed it from myself #clichemuch

For most of my life, I’ve been operating in my masculine—working multiple jobs, chasing achievements, living by schedules and tick-lists.

Then 2020 hit. It forced me to stop and slow down.

That’s when I started REALLY cultivating my feminine energy more. I danced. I shared. I practiced flowing and sharpening my intuition. Unexpectedly, I even stopped working for a while.

Now, life is calling me to strengthen BOTH.

To have the skill to shift between masculine and feminine when needed.

And as my capacity to be in my feminine increased (specifically my emotional range and unfiltered expression)
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my NEED to develop a strong masculine did too.

But I was resisting that and relying on my partners too much.

That led to unmet needs, dissatisfaction, and my grandest childhood habit: blame.

Blaming men makes for a GREAT STORY.

But it’s not the one I want to keep telling.

Over Halfway Through—What’s Next?

First of all—After this, my inner flirt is coming back with a vengeance (haha jokes..maybe)

I’ve already learned so much.

• I’ve learned that my unique expression deepens when I have my own strong masculine to hold it.

• I’ve seen how my emotional needs—the ones I used to expect a partner to meet—become easier to hold when I show my feelings presence and devotion.

• I’ve also realised that true masculine support from a partner feels different when I’m already meeting myself in this way.
It no longer feels like rescuing. It feels like an extension of what I already provide.

This month, in the School For Sensitive Women we've been diving into ALL OF THIS—how these opposing energies play out in relationships, self-trust, and deep fulfilment (the workshop was DOPPEEE!)

Out of all the frameworks I’ve studied—chakras, yogic teachings, breath, nervous system work—
masculine and feminine dynamics have been the best to aid relationships for both clients and me.

And honestly?
It’s one of my favourites.

This journey isn’t just about removing men.

It’s about becoming the one who holds, leads, and devotes to herself first. This is also a HUGE gift to men who have the classic masculine wound of 'not enough'.

Stay tuned for the next update. Man, things are unfolding quickly!

🌷 Em (your highly-feminine coach)