Intellectualising emotions gets a bad wrap.

Processing emotional experiences comes in stages(I'm sure you have experienced WAVES of grief, sadness or gratitude even).

When my dad passed I went straight into planning mode: what needed to be done, who needed to know..to do lists and tick boxes.

Some could argue this is "emotional bypassing" (don’t you love these new-age terms).

For me, it was part of the process.

Don’t you worry; I felt my grief...and I didn't do it gracefully.

In fact, I spent hours on the floor curled up in a ball running out of tissues..barely being able to see through the tears and breathe through the pain.

So those moments of solace where I could focus on a task = relief.

We need to titrate our pain as sensitive women.

Feeling deeply means our whole body gets wrapped up in an experience.

-Heartbreak can feel like the earth shatters underneath you and you’re going to fall to your death.

-Betrayal can feel like a blunt knife thrust into your flesh, twisting slowly.

-Confusion can feel like an abyss of unbreathable air you’re gasping to breathe.

I want to REALLY validate that it's okay to take your time.

A beautiful and easy-as-hell mantra for sensitive women is:
"I'll know I'll do it when I'm ready."

I just posted a little more about that here if you'd like to read.

That being said, emotional processing is directly linked to the amount of intimacy you can offer and experience from others.

So if you're craving deeper relationships or feeling more 'seen' and understood by your partner..start with a grief/sadness practice.

It takes courage (like a lot) to look into the dark corners of YOU.

But it's a hell of a lot easier when you have a cheerleader! I hope I can be that for you. Maybe through these vulnerable blogs I share, social media chats or a deeper connection.

I recently updated my website and added the tagline:"just generally a caring human, dedicated to loving women through all their seasons."

and I mean that - hopefully it comes across.

Let me know. Reach out,what resonates here? I read every reply.

🌸 Em x

(my best friend and I in Rishikesh recently (the birthplace of yoga!)